STEP THREE 

Welcome to Day Three ​my love.

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Now we know what you’re saying to yourself we're going a layer deeper and excavating the beliefs underneath. 

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1) Take two to three examples of things you are saying to yourself and write them down. 

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For each one ask: what am I believing about myself? 

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Maybe you are believing something isn't safe. That you're not worthy of other people's love and attention. That you have to look and behave in a certain way.

 

Write out anything that comes. 

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2) Now, let's challenge them. Are you really, completely sure these are true? 

 

Some will be easier to move through than others.

 

For example, everybody hates me is one we can pull apart - everybody? every single person? Hates you? Hate is a really strong word, are you sure? 

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3) Get one/two main beliefs that have been running your self talk.

 

You know these are yours if they have emotional charge. Do you feel them in your body? Does your voice crack or do you want to cry?  

 

Nine times out of ten it comes down to one of these three: 

 

I’m not good enough

I’m don’t deserve…

There's something wrong with me

 

The last one was mine.

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4) Imagine the opposite was true. What is there was nothing wrong with you? What if you did deserve said thing? What if you were good enough?

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5) List three pieces of evidence under each belief to disprove them.

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BONUS: Share your beliefs in the facebook group. ​

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A note, on this: belief work runs deep and can take some time.

 

It's ok not to feel like you can move these in an instant, or that you still believe them to some degree. What we want to trace here is the self-talk that comes from them which is unsupportive. Any moment in which you catch yourself in this and make a new choice is progress.